He told me that normally while driving he would look for the
road signs or watch the GPS to see how much further he had to go. Each time he
looked at them he would get feelings of anxiety or frustration as he realized
HOW MUCH further he still had to go. This would then lead his mind off in a
cascade of negativity. Ugh its so uncomfortable in the car, my legs hurt, im
hungry, I wish we were there already…etc.
So he said this time, he made a conscious effort to look as
the signs and think “OK 100 more miles”. Then he would just go back to
listening to his book or music without letting it effect his emotion. The road
sign is really only stating facts. So there are 100 more miles… and there is
going to be 100 more miles whether you like it or not, whether you make
yourself more miserable or not.
He also said it was important to not AVOID looking at the
sign because that too would creative a negative feeling. Just Accept it for
what it is, 100 more miles.
A lot of times when we are beginning new stages of our life
or trying to make changes, we let ourselves get all worked up about where we
are now.
Example: You are starting a weightloss program that requires
you to list your weight and a “before” picture. Unconsciously you start to feel
really bad about your current health which starts the cascade of negativity. I
shouldn’t have let myself go like this, I look horrible, I can’t even control
what I eat-how can I control other parts of my life, nobody is going to be
attracted to THIS, why would anyone want to be with me anyways….etc. GET THE
IDEA?
Your starting point IS WHAT IT IS… A starting point. That’s it.
Now lets focus on how awesome we are for trying!
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